When I was growing up, our former neighbors, whom we’ll call the Sloans, were the only couple on the block without kids. It wasn’t that they couldn’t have children; according to Mr. Sloan, they just chose not to. All the other parents, including mine, thought it was odd-even tragic. So any bad luck that befell the Sloans-the egging of their house one Halloween; the landslide that sent their pool careering to the street below-was somehow attributed to that fateful decision they’d made so many years before. "Well, " the other adults would say, "you know they never did have kids." Each time I visited the Sloans, I’d search for signs of insanity, misery or even regret in their superclean home. yet I never seemed to find any. From what I could tell, the Sloans were happy, maybe even happier than my parents, despite the fact that they were childless. My impressions may have been swayed by the fact that their candy dish was always full, but several studies now show that the Sloans could well have been more content than most of the traditional families around them. In Daniel Gilbert’s 2006 book Stumbling on Happiness, the Harvard professor of psychology looks at several studies and concludes that marital satisfaction decreases dramatically after the birth of the first child-and increases only when the last child has left home. He also ascertains that parents are happier grocery shopping and even sleeping than spending time with their kids. Other data cited by 2008’s Gross National Happiness author, Arthur C. Brooks, finds that parents are about 7 percentage points less likely to report being happy than the childless. The most recent comprehensive study on the emotional state of those with kids shows us that the term "bundle of joy" may not be the most accurate way to describe our offspring. "’Parents experience lower levels of emotional well-being, less frequent positive emotions and more frequent negative emotions than their childless peers, "says Florida State University’s Robin Simon, a sociology professor who’s conducted several recent parenting studies, the most thorough of which came out in 2005 and looked at data gathered from 13, 000 Americans by the National Survey o1 Families and Households." In fact, no group of parents — married, single, step or even empty nest — reported significantly greater emotional well-being than people who never had children. It’s such a counterintuitive finding because we have these cultural beliefs that children are the key to happiness and a healthy life, and they’re not." Parents may openly lament their lack of sleep, hectic schedules and difficulty in dealing with their surly teens, but rarely will they cop to feeling depressed due to the everyday rigors of child rearing. "If you admit that kids and parenthood aren’t making you happy, it’s basical blasphemy, "says Jcn Singer, a stay-at-home mother of two from New Jersey who runs the popular parenting blog MommaSaid. net. "From baby-lotion commercials that make motherhood look happy and well rested, to commercials for Disney World where you’re supposed to fccl like a kid because you’re there with your kids, we’ve made parenthood out to be one blissful moment after another, and it’s disappointing when you find out it’s not." Is it possible that American parents have always been this disillusioned Anecdotal evidence says no. In pre-industrial America, parents certainly loved their children, but their offspring also served a purpose-to work the farm, contribute to the household. Children were a necessity. Today, we have kids more for emotional reasons, but an increasingly complicated work and social environment has made finding satisfaction far more difficult. A key study by University of Wisconsin-Madison’s Sara McLanahan and Julia Adams, conducted some 20 years ago, found that parenthood was perceived as significantly more stressful in the 1970s than in the 1950s; the researchers attribute part of that change to major shifts in employment patterns. The majority of American parents now work outside the home, have less support from extended family and face a deteriorating education and health-care system, so raising children has not only become more complicated-it has become more expensive. Today the U. S. Department of Agriculture estimates that it costs anywhere from $134, 370 to $ 237, 520 to raise a child from birth to the age of 17-and that’s not counting school or college tuition. No wonder parents are feeling a little blue.
A. Buying baby-lotion commercials will bring parents’ happiness. B. Parents with kids will have the happy moment one after another. C. Parents will realize things are not what they seem to be. D. Children may make parents feel young.
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